Impact of friends
The influence of peers whether positive or negative is a
large part of children and teens lives. Friends play a major role in their
lives. It is crucial for parents to keep communication open and know who you
child is hanging out with. Friends often have a large influence over decisions
that are made.
Suggestions to stay connected:
- Get to know the friends of your teen. Learn their names, invite them into your home
so you can talk and listen to them, and introduce yourself to their parents.
- Do not attack your child's friends. Remember that criticizing your teen's choice
of friends is like a personal attack.
- Help your teen understand the difference between image
(expressions of youth culture) and identity (who he or she is).
- Keep the lines of communication open and find out why these
friends are important to your teenager.
- Talk to your teenager about behavior and choices -- not the
- Encourage your teen's independence by supporting
decision-making based on principles and not other people.
- Encourage reflective thinking by helping your teen think
about his or her actions in advance and discussing immediate and long-term
consequences of risky behavior.
- Talking to your teen about remaining alcohol and drug free